Everyone is a child but not everyone remember themselves being a child
When we become concerned with the matter of consequences we usually forget what the feeling of being a child is.
Parents must not promise something to their child if they don’t mean it. Adults usually forget that simple things bare a lot to young ones. They think that it is ok if they just ignore something that they promise to a child because they think that they will forget them when they grew up. Yes it is true, but not on all cases.
A young boy had a crush on a girl, his classmate. After class, he went home and goes to their backyard and started to write something on the tree that he found.
“I Love You”
The next day, after class, her mother asked him “how’s school?”
“Its fine” the boy replied
“I saw what you wrote on the tree at our backyard, who is she?” the mother asked again.
The boy didn’t replied, he just looked down at the floor.
The mother asked him again while smiling, “who is she? It’s ok I won’t tell anyone, it’s our secret”
The boy then asked her mother, “Promise?”
“Yes I promise!” she said
The boy is very happy as he tells her mother about the girl he liked. He trusts her with all the trust that he can give.
The next day, everybody in their family knows everything, and then the boy asked his mother, “You promised me that no one will know, why you told them?”
“It’s ok It’s just them” she answered
At that very moment, the boy decided not to tell anything anymore to his parents, after that, he mastered the words “yes, no, and maybe” that’s the only words that he spoke whenever he was asked.
For adults, this kind of things is not a big deal. I understand why they think like that, it’s because their level of understanding only focuses on things that they face. They don’t realize that for a child, what they call simple and not a big deal is their main happiness in life. Don’t they realize that a child cries on simple things only? That means that a simple thing for them is a big thing for a child.
Parents do everything that they can do for their child to be in the best situation possible; they strive hard for their child’s future, and become one of their main priorities in life. But this is not an excuse to put aside their promises, because for a child they still don’t understand that everything their parents is doing is for them, what they need the most is what they see and what they feel because this is how they learn on this stage of life. Don’t push a child to understand something that is yet beyond his capability of understanding because they will surely misunderstand you, unless you show them, for that’s how they learn.
I am not yet a parent so I could be wrong, maybe I just don’t understand something, but for a child, this is my view.
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